Query: How to find out whether a person loves a girl
The rituals in marriage are absolutely related to the caste you
are marrying in. If you are a Kayastha or a Brahmin then the priest of that particular religion who conducts
the marriage will take care of all the necessary ingredients for making a marriage ceremony
Likewise for a Christian... everything is conducted by the priest of
the Church. Absolutely unaware of the rituals... the participants are simple onlookers. You should not be worrying
on this account as the elders in your family shall take care of this.
No marriage can ever be bounded by any religion or caste! It is mutual trust amongst the partners which plays the
crucial role. No amount of Pujas or recitation of shlokas can make a marriage successful. Care should only be taken
that the poojari (priest) knows his job.
Your second question expresses doubts on the solemn
institution of marriage itself. For all practical purposes the soul atman within your heart... the sweet small
voice of your atman soul would prompt you of the right answer.
In the present Kali Yuga phase of life, the veil of ignorance
(Maya as defined by Sri
Ramakrishna Paramhansa in advaita vedanta) makes it rather difficult for one to hear the sweet small inner voice of
your atman soul. If you are truthful to yourself... you shall definitely be able to hear this sweet small inner
voice of your atman soul.
Whenever thinking of love if you find your heart fluttering... it is
indicative of something being wrong in your love relationship. Whenever two hearts meet in true love... the heart
never flutters... rather it rejoices on an amicable relationship.
If you really want to get to the correct answer... be truthful to yourself and ask your atman the soul within
whether your decision is right. If your atman the soul within your heart says yes, then go ahead fully stream. If
the answer is 50-50, ponder over the relationship. Arrive at the conclusion which is affirmative in
If you want to ask your partner... look straight in his eyes and shoot
your query. If without fluttering his eyelids... he also replies in affirmative... he is being truthful. Any
untruthful person would always be wary of your pinpointing eyes. To catch a liar in the circumstances is quite
Try to question your would-be husband on all issues that are
disturbing you at the moment. If without fluttering his eyes... he replies back to your query in a straight and
simple manner... he must be truthful. Always continue to look directly into the eyes of your would-be husband while
Any tendency of his being untruthful will be given away by his fluttering eyes. Eyes are the window of our atman
the soul within. Whatever is happening within our heart... all gets reflected in the eyes.
Furthermore, brood over the past actions of your would-be husband. His
mode of action in dealing with you in the past would speak all. His behavior while talking to girls and ladies
would confirm whether he is likely to maintain a monogamous relationship in the coming future. The actions of a
person... his behavior would confirm all.
The samskars in the family would reconfirm whether you can trust your
husband or not. The samskars in a Hindu family play a lead role. As is the past of the elders... the children tend
to follow the same! If you find the past background of the elders of your would-be husband's family in order... all
can be expected to go right.
Do not let distrust ever creep in amongst the two of you. It
is distrust and only distrust that destroys any harmonious relationship. It at any stage of life you have queries
that disturb you... pin pointedly ask your husband looking straight into his eyes. You also need to have absolute
faith in God Almighty. Rest assured... everything will go well.
Also no institution of marriage survives for long where the simple
meaning of love is sex. Look straight into the eyes of your would-be husband and ask a question from within
yourself whether your would-be husband truly loves you and is not simply attracted to the physical manifest
form of you. His body language would speak the truth.
Sexual relationship forms only very small part of love. Every love
relationship survives all critical moments of life based on the mutual trust one has for each other. Whatever
be the result... the assessment is purely in your hands. You must decide this part of your life based on the
merits. Clarify all doubts before marriage. Do not leave anything to chance.
Always there to clarify your queries (send your query),
Vijay Kumar "Atma Jnani" ... The Man who Realized God in 1993!
Full text of query: Is there any pooja or slokas to get married to the person i love? and how
to find out that weather a person loves loves a girl truley?
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